Crime and punishments:2009

Well, since I am confident that nobody actually reads this blog on a regular basis, I am going to use it to get all my frustrations regarding my current difficulty out.

I got a phone call last week, from a woman who is claiming that my husband of 7 months is still married to her. My husband is a truck driver, and that profession carries a stereotype of having a woman in every truckstop in all corners of the United States. I have to admit though, my husband is not the one I would believe this about. He joined my church, and that doesn't speak of someone who is trying to maintain some kind of fraud, because that created another form of identification... a baptizm record. He speaks constantly of adopting my children, and making a family for us, and us retiring together on the shore of a mountain lake in Kentucky. He tells me that I am June Carter to his Johnny Cash. Both of us have been hurt. We have both been through divorces and dealt with cheating, so when I got this call, you could have knocked me over with a feather. *slight chants of Jerry! Jerry! rising*

Anyway, she has been bombarding me with phone calls, and facebook messages, etc, and all I can do is kind of sit back and mourn the happiness we had started to build... not that it was perfect, we are still struggling with money, and all, but things were actually working towards a goal.

I have performed every background check I can find. I have spent close to $100, and found nothing. There is no documentation of any legitimate marriage between these people. Hubby has admitted a live-in relationship with this woman, but claims that it was her obsession with him that ended the relationship and that they were never legally married. What he failed to take into account was the legal rammafications of a common law situation. *Ignores the deafening chants of "Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!*

What has in fact happened is nothing malicious, but surmounts to a huge clerical error. This woman took his name, and they cohabitated for a period longer than 2 years. In any legal light, this constitutes a common law marriage. However, he was not legally divorced from his first wife until January of 06... which leaves it open to judicial interpretation as to whether or not an actual marriage exists.

My head is spinning, and I am waiting any moment for Jeff Foxworthy to bring me my free lifetime membership to the trailer park. The short of it is: I don't want this much drama in my life!!!!!! I love my husband that is true, but I have lost people before, and while it is tragic when a marriage relationship ends, I will survive. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them. I don't want to be with someone who is asking me to divide his attention with anything besides employment. My family is important to me, more important than any man.

Now, I know what you are all thinking, I should turn my tragedy into a reality competition show... make a million dollars, and retire. No... I think not. I am going to do what everyone on the Rock of Love Bus would never do........... nothing. I don't want a man I have to fight for. I don't want to have to engage in a stripper pole dance off, or a catfight in a vat of chocolate pudding. If someone is going to be married to me, they have to love, honor, cherish, and nookie only me. Anything else is not acceptable.

So, forget any hair pulling episodes of Jerry Springer. This girl is moving on with her life, and should my husband choose to do so at my side, then all other circumstances will have to be dealt with and resolved, and put in the past. It is up to him. I am moving forward, with or without him.